Vino Train Wine Tour

It has been a while since I posted anything. Things have been very challenging for me lately but with the great support I have from friends and family, prayer, and patience, I know this too shall pass.

I started the first day of Fall with a Santa Barbara Wine Tour with my friend Nakitta, her mom, grandma, and a couple friends. We booked a ride on the Vino Train.The weather was nice and we had an amazing day. The train ride was wonderful with continental breakfast, unlimited mimosas up there; and train ride back was just as nice with a nice dinner and red wine. I've included a couple pics


 I had a chance to wear my amazing clutch purchased from my fellow BLMGirl, Cortnie Elizabeth you can find her handbags at LoveCortnie on FB
 The beautiful sunset on the train ride home
 This was my experience throughout the day. Great wine and beautiful glasses
 This wine tour was truly amazing...
Me and my Bestie




Man Pleasing Chicken...




 I discovered this recipe from a fellow blogger Britton of bigbeautifullife84
You can also find this recipe on my Board entitled FOOD on Pinterest
 
It actually turned out pretty good. After it was done cooking, I glazed the top and added some fresh Rosemary.
With the Man Pleasing Chicken, I added some Yellow Rice by Zataran's, and a vegetable blend (steamed) from Costco.

I must admit, my man was pleased and so were the girls!

BLMeet Up Recap


Leslie of Fashion du Jour shared a very nice recap of our actual meeting between the group I belong to known as BLMGirls. Enjoy!

Shame on You, or Shame on Me?

In my last couple posts, we tackled the discussion of spanking vs non spanking and which discipline methods worked and did not work. My friend, Marcus Morgan (who reads my blog) shared a link with me regarding scolding children in public. The article discussed a couple different scenarios of children being humiliated in public by their parents. After reading the article, I could see the author's point of view and much of what I read made sense to me from a psychological viewpoint. However, as a mother, my mother senses went haywire! I have had to scold my children in public before because they did was unacceptable and some behaviors should not be "left alone until we get home"; they should be addressed right when they happen to discourage this type of behavior.

Is there a proper way to scold a child in public? Of course there is. We don't want to humiliate them but we do want them to understand that if you misbehave in public and embarrass me, then you will in turn be embarrassed. As humans, we are innately built to learn from our experiences and we experience things that don't make us feel 100% comfortable, we avoid the behavior which caused this effect (Cause and Effect). As I mentioned in a previous post, we don't want our children fearful to the point of being afraid of us physically, but afraid to disappoint us; a healthy fear.

If there are certain "agreements" you have with your children regarding their behavior before you leave the home, and they wait until they get in front of others to "challenge" this agreement, you have to act on it. As a mother and educator I have both experienced and witnessed children test their parents because they are in front of someone else. As a parent, I needed my children to understand that just because we're in front of strangers or in front of their grandparents, I'm still in control and what I say goes. Respect comes from a mutual understanding between us to respect one another's roles as parent and child without going back on that with disruptive behavior.

When a child challenges their parent in a negative way, it demonstrates a level of disrespect. As a parent, my children are able to voice their opinions and we talk about how they feel and if there is room for improvement or an apology on my part, I give them what is warranted. However, if you choose to go against me in a defiant manner, we no longer have a respectful agreement. All bets are off and I need to remind you who's in charge.

At the end of the day, when you experience something firsthand and it is not a good feeling, you no longer have a desire to feel that way again. As a parent, it's not a good feeling to be embarrassed by your child in public and for a child, it's not a good feeling to be embarrassed by their parents in public. Solution: Have ground rules for your children. Healthy disciplining and setting boundaries as well as realistic expectation and goals will eliminate a great deal of this type of unwanted behavior. Children who are raised with boundaries and language to express their feelings blossom into productive individuals who can clearly state what their needs are without being disrespectful.

For your reference, the Article

I want to thank Marcus for sharing this insightful article with me and i would love to hear your thought as parents regarding disciplining and scolding in public.

Until we chat again...

Say Cheese...

This time of year, the kids are getting settled in and Picture Day arrives before you know it! Haley took her pictures a couple weeks ago and they arrived home with her in her backpack yesterday. She looks like such a big girl; she's the baby of our family and I wish I could keep her small forever! She's in 3rd grade and she looks like such a big girl in her photos, I can't get over it.

Today, Jaedyn will be taking School Pics. She's 12. Boy was this morning a tad bit stressful as she decided and changed her mind about her hair and which skirt looked the best. By the time I dropped her off at school, I pulled about 30 hairs out!! Just kidding. I can't wait to see her pictures and I will definitely have to post them.

Is it Picture Day in your households? How is it going? Do you tell your children how to smile, or do you enjoy being surprised when you get the photos?

I "suggest" how they may want to smile but I am always surprised when I get the photos. I LOVE taking pictures and ordering them for my children. Pictures are a quiet story; they're worth so much and they speak to me!

Until we chat again...

Don't Just Sit There...READ!

On my Facebook Page I posted a link for really great books to read to your children for Fall (Autumn) as many of our children often notice the change in weather. In addition to posting the books, I would also like to give some advice regarding Interactive Reading. As an educator, this is something I practice with my students about 2-3 times per day. Interactive Reading is exactly what the title implies: interacting while reading. You want your children to be involved in the reading when you read with them daily, (for at least 20 min) at home. Here are a few tips to assist you with making sure reading time is pleasant, engaging, and educational for both you and your child:

  • Review the parts of a book before you read it: title, cover, spine, pages, text, author, illustrator, genre (fiction, non-fiction, comedy, fantasy, etc), and time (past or present)
  • Read the book BEFORE you share it with your child- background information is vital
  • Ask what they think the book may be about just from viewing the cover and the title
  • Introduce the main character of the book and tell a bit about what occurs in the story
  • Remember to pause and go with the flow of the writer (author) of the book. For example, if the book is serious, funny, adventurous, etc, use those tones and expressions to get the point across
  • Ask open-ended (allows for their own input and responses) questions before, during, and after the reading of the book
  • When children are responding to you, give them time to say what they need to say before interrupting them
  • Be very expressive when reading. Remember, YOU are MODELING for them how to read
  • Add props (if available) Lakeshore has so many great books with props (for an additional fee)
  • Have fun and let loose a little. Don't be so reserved when reading; children love animated reading
  • Try to read books that your children can relate to; books that carry meaning of prior knowledge and new knowledge are also vital
  • Be sure to record areas your child is strong in and areas needing improving so that you can share with their teacher. This ensures your child has the best learning experience at home and school and you are working closely with their teacher to ensure their academic needs are being met
I hope these tips were helpful. Also remember that we want our children to take something away with them when we read with them. We want them to increase skills they already possess as well as acquire new skills. We want them to learn to think critically, comprehend what it is they are reading, and develop a love of reading. Happy Parenting!

Until we chat again...

It Will Be Okay. I Promise!

They only cry for a little while and once they see the other children playing and running around, they want to do it as well. What am I talking about??? PRESCHOOL! This week some of you may have become Preschool Parents for the first time.
As a seasoned educator, I know first-hand that parents make it worse by standing around waiting for them to stop crying. It is natural to want to protect your child from any and everything including that "horrible Preschool Teacher"! LOL But seriously, I understand that it is very difficult as a parent to leave your child with staff all day while you have to work instead of being a parent. I have been both a parent and the receiving Preschool Teacher. The beauty of Preschool teachers is that we are trained in Early Education which is a specialized area in nurturing, caring, and encouraging young children. Preschool teachers want to encourage your children to be independent; they do this by providing a very nurturing and caring environment where your child can flourish and grow in a developmentally appropriate way. Simply stated, they know what they are doing, they are the experts. Don't stand around and give the staff the side eye because your baby is crying; crying is a method of communication for most toddlers, they cry to get your attention. Therefore, when they cry, acknowledge them and remind them that you love them and it time for school but you will be back. Sometimes, as parents, we cry as well. I know when I first left Preon at Preschool, I cried all the way to school myself. I had to visit the restroom and get myself together before going into class. It's okay to feel sad and unsure, but remember, you researched this school and you decided it would be the best fit for you and your family so allow the staff to show you that they "got it".
May I also suggest that children who have ONLY been in the care of their parents for the first few years should only attend Preschool for half day the first couple weeks. Usually, you can arrange this with the Principal (Administrator). If they are having too difficult of a time separating from their mom (separation anxiety) half days will make the transition a bit smoother. It allows them to experience preschool a bit slower and its not such a shock to them.
I will share a few tips with you regarding Preschool so that you and your child have the best experience:

  • Reassure your child that you will return at a certain time to get them and keep your word by arriving in a timely manner
  • Make sure you talk to them daily about what they did at school. Ask what they ate, which games they played, what they learned, and if they made any new friends
  • Don't rush in the mornings; make dropping them off stress-less. For example, go inside their classroom and ask them to show you around. Be excited about their classroom and all the wonderful things in it
  • Form a rapport with the staff. Know ALL their names, greet them daily and take time to ask how your child is adjusting. Let them know you are involved and you do know their names!
  • Meet the Principal and know their name as well
  • Volunteer in the classroom during the school year
  • Share milestone events that happen at home with the teacher so that they are able to make notes and properly assess the developmental growth of your child
  • Make sure the staff is aware of any allergies your child may have
  • Label jackets, coats, and sweaters with your child's name; they have a tendency to get legs and walk
  • Begin a regimen of daily vitamins for you and your preschooler as Preschoolers have cooties! (smile)
  • Attend Back-to-School Night and all Parent Conferences. Be involved in your child's education
  • Donate items needed in the classroom for special projects
  • Look for the posted lesson plan and Parent Communication Board for the latest Classroom News
  • Be kind to the staff every now and then with donuts and coffee or a $5.00 gift card just to say thanks. A little goes a long way; teachers are very under appreciated and sometimes they need to know someone cares
  • Read to your child EVERY night for at least 20 minutes
  • Prepare yourself for the wonderful changes that are in store for your little one as they become more confident, independent, and mature. Language is a huge part of their development so give them lots of it!
May you and your Toddler have the best school year possible. Remember, College Begins in Preschool!

Until we chat again...


I Have Been Nominated...


I have been nominated by Southern Girl over at PecanPieandPincurls I want to thank her so much for this nomination as I am fairly new to the blogging world and this nomination will assist me in being recognized.

Here's what I have to do:

1. Thank the Blogger that nominated me.
2. Share 7 random facts about me.
3. Nominate 15 bloggers who are relatively new to blogging.
4. Let nominated bloggers know they have been nominated.

5. Add the Versatile Blogger Award to my post. 

Random Facts:
1. I'm obsessed with reality shows
2. I like the lines from vacuuming to show on my carpet
3. I love Sunflower Seeds (David's)
4. I can make a mean Martini
5. I can never keep the same hairstyle for more than 3 months
6. I'm obsessed with accessories
7. I REALLY love my Beetle. I nicknamed her "Cutie" (with JJ's help)

Bloggers I nominate: (Please check them out)




Are You Really Doing That?...TANTRUMS

As we continue to discuss the value of discipline, I would like to discuss children who have TANTRUMS. As a parent who personally experienced a tantrum, I remember thinking, "Are you really doing that???"
This two-part question was posed to me by a reader of my blog: "What do you do when you have children who have tantrums? What about a parent who allows a tantrum to happen while just looking at the child and letting the tantrum come to an end on its own?"

My response was: To answer your question, the parent who is experiencing this "tantrum type" behavior needs to stop it immediately.  (I asked the ages of the children which were 2 and 3.5 years) For both, have the mothers pick them up from the floor (firm grip on arm) look them in the eye and say "NO! get up". This needs to be repeated every single time. the 2 year old is still learning to express him/herself so they need the language. Mommy does not like that. No-No! The three year old could be imitating behavior. This child needs the firmer grip on the arm and major eye contact each and every time she does it. If she's in school, she could see another child doing it and she wants to test the waters at home. Because she's a bit older, the language could be more mature. For example: "This is not acceptable behavior, get up from the floor now! Use your words and tell Mommy what you need." Because this behavior has been occurring for some time, and there have not been any consequences, these methods should be followed BEFORE a pop on the behind. With words (language) should come the warning of a smack on the butt for the 3 year old. Preschool will bring about many bad habits and cooties. LOL  I would suggest  parents speak with the teacher in regards to what behavior modification plans are in place there at the Preschool. 

I know there are some of you who cringed at the thought of gripping your child's arm. Do not fret. This does not mean dig your nails in your child's' arm, rather it means to get a firm enough grip to let them know they are no longer in control of this situation and YOU ARE. You know how you grab your child's arm when you're at a friends home or in the store and they are embarrassing you? Right. That type of grip. It will get their attention and let them know, "This is not acceptable behavior". Waiting a tantrum out is not such a good idea; a child could injure themselves during a tantrum. Language mixed with a firm grip will let the child know that this will not be tolerated.

As I stated in my previous post, children want to express themselves and a tantrum is a way of showing pure displeasure for them. Therefore, you want to teach them to say, "I really want that, or I really want to ride that merry go round at the mall Mommy". In their head, they think, "If I scream and kick and yell, she will really hear me and know I mean business"; it is our job as parents to teach them that we do not respond to threats (tantrums), we respond to words.

I remember when my son, who is now 20, had a tantrum on me in the store. It was the most embarrassing thing I ever had happen to me. I had not had any of the Child Dev training I have now and I just snatched him up and popped that butt really good and I left the shopping cart and exited the store as quickly as possible. That was the wrong thing to do. Once you get control of the situation, you continue on with your plans. You want to send a clear message to your child that you are in control.

I have heard some say that you should just ignore this type of negative behavior and let it run its course. I do not agree. I am firm believer in the power of experience. Meaning, if you touch that fire, you'll get burned, right? If you don't wear knee pads, you fall and it hurts, right? Children need to know that for every action, there is a reaction. How you react to tantrums will determine how many your child will have. Have you or someone you know had to deal with Tantrums? What were the strategies used?

Until we chat again...


To Spank, or Not to to Spank... That is the question

Spankings are one of those conversations that no one really wants to have. However, disciplining is mentioned in the Bible, an age-old reference for many. In my opinion, there are so many afraid to speak on it because of the many laws that have changed over the years and parents are just plain "afraid" to spank their children. As a mom of four children, I have had my share of disciplining children by spankings. Statistics have shown that children need structure and stability in their lives in order to grow and develop. This does not mean beat them every time they do something wrong, but a nice little sting on the bottom or hand is a friendly reminder that the behavior they are displaying is not acceptable.

One of the set backs with disciplining, in my opinion and from my experience with different parents, is that parents don't start at an early age with disciplining their children. They look up one day, and they have a 3-4 year old falling out in the middle of the floor having a tantrum in the local mall or store and they are embarrassed and want answers as to why this is happening. It's simple: when the behavior initially began, it was disregarded and never handled appropriately. Children should learn early on that for every action, there is a reaction...cause and effect. "If I do this, then this will happen". We have to start speaking with our children in the womb. I'm sure many of you parents have heard this, right? It is very beneficial that we set the tone for our children at an early age. From infancy to about age 3, facial expressions and a very stern voice, when necessary works wonders. It's not that you want to make your children afraid of you in the literal sense, but you do want them to fear disappointing you. Does that make sense?

The key to disciplining is consistency. There are some things, that as parents, we can overlook, but there are things which should not be overlooked and should be addressed immediately. Not listening and following directions is something that should never be overlooked. If you say you are going to do something, do it. This will teach your children that they can count on you, depend on you, and it is consistency. If you scold them for doing something, always scold them for that behavior. Don't let it "slide" because you don't feel like exerting the energy at the particular moment.

When you speak to your children, do not stand over them. They already know you're bigger and taller; stoop down to their level and get eye contact with them and look them directly in the eye when you speak with them. Use facial expressions to show disappointment, gratitude, and pleasure.

Language. Use lots of language with your child/dren. The most frustrating thing for a young child is the inability to express themselves properly. Toddlers often find themselves stuck in the developmental stage of Autonomy vs Shame and Doubt (Erikson), meaning, they want to be independent but find themselves struggling because they lack the "words" to say (in a sense) "I got this Mommy" so the inability to say what they feel leads to shame and doubt. As parents, it's our job to give them that confidence, the language.

I will post more on this subject, I just wanted to spark your interest and hear from you as parents. Tell me, what are your strategies when it comes to disciplining your children?

Until we chat again...

Amid the Chaos...

Even though there has been CHAOS, we still managed to keep on moving because that's what we do in the Evans household! LOL.
I thought I'd share a few pics with you all. Oh...Also, the lil ones started school on the 13th and 14th...

  • Friday night, Haley and I attended the Mindless Behavior Concert at the Nokia Center
  •  Saturday we took Prettie back to ASU
  • Sunday night we returned and went to bed
  • Monday...doctor because I re-injured my back somehow
  • Monday...Cheer and Basketball practice (I do Cheer and Hubby does BBall)
  • Tuesday...Sparks game. JJ and Haley went on the court to meet the players and get signed balls. We sat directly in front of the USA Olympics Water Polo Team with Gold Medals in hand!
  • Wednesday...Cheer
  • Thursday...Scrimmage Game (Haley Cheering)
  • Friday and Saturday...New Carpet
Haley with the Water Polo Team

JJ is in an OFFICIAL 7th Grader now

Haley is an OFFICIAL 3rd Grader now

Headed to the concert...

Tickets in hand...

Saw some friends at the concert. I've never heard so many screaming girls!

JJ getting her ball on the court

JJ and her teammates

And what have you all been up to?


In A Word...CHAOS

My life is nothing short of hectic on a daily basis. To add more to it would spell out CHAOS! Well, me being me, I did just that! I added remodeling our apartment to my already busy list. Now mind you, I'm by no means doing any of it myself; I'm sort of requesting and getting what has been long overdue. However, getting an entire three bedroom apartment painted and having new carpet installed while living in it is... hmm... CHAOTIC! LOL.
So far, I am very pleased with the color choices in each room which I carefully selected. The great part in all of this, I'd have to say is the fact that I am forced to deep clean my apartment. It was never "dirty" but I had a chance to see things I found "spaces" for over the five years we have occupied this space.
Mind you, when we initially moved in, I told hubby this place was just our temporary space because I knew I'd be finish with school soon and we would have a home. HA! No such luck. I did finish school and hubby even went back and he just found an amazing job with a huge pay raise and I'm still sitting here twiddling my thumbs waiting to put my "Degrees" (plural) to use.
Nevertheless, with things being the way they are, we will continue to fund the college students and support the extra curricular activities of the children and try to enjoy life as it is. I have decided to make this our home. It has always been that, but I never quite put my touch in every single room 100%.
I am anxious to decorate once the carpet is installed this weekend; I have lots of great ideas for each room.
I am also anxious to get back to blogging and interacting with my BLM Girls. For now, it's decorating, Cheer, Basketball, and everything in between! Until we chat again...

Yeah...It's a Big DEAL Around Here!

If you follow my FB Page you know that my Son and his girlfriend left this morning for school ASU and U of A; we are taking our oldest girl back next week. I have become accustomed to my two older ones leaving me and I don't cry anymore LOL. Even though the two older ones leaving is a big deal around here, we have another BIG deal going on...JJ, our 12 year old is starting 7th grade this year and it is a BIG DEAL for her so it is a BIG DEAL for us as well. Because she attends a school which require uniforms, the fuss is all out the shoes and other accessories. She had a list of shoes she absolutely could not live without for this school year to start. Hubby and I purchased a pair and her loving big sister purchased another pair for her plus two more pair "Just because" they were on sale. Now, this girl is 12 and wears a size 10 shoe so her shoes are not cheap at all! But she's a good kid, makes good grades, and is a stellar athlete so we don't mind treating her to what she wants. There are a couple other shoes on her list but she needs something to work toward right? Not getting her everything she wants when she wants it is motivation!
Now...the mini Diva of the house, Miss Haley specifically wanted high tops so we purchased the Skechers Twinkle Toes for her (the ones that reach her calves); she also has a couple pair of "regular" shoes as she likes to say! Her big brother and sister also purchased 3 pair of Skinny jeans for her from Old Navy (2 were regular skinny and one was Super Skinny and a bunch of graphic tees; Haley's ideal wardrobe!
Haley is starting 3rd grade this year and that's a BIG DEAL as well. 3rd grade is one of the most difficult years in school but we are up for the challenge! Haley wants her hair flat-ironed with twists in the front. I think I can handle that :-) JJ opted for individuals to start the school year with so she was braided yesterday at the shop.
I'm looking forward to a productive year for all my children this year. We have some extra things in the works which I will share with you later.

I know your time and valuable and precious, and I thank you for sharing it with me. Until we chat again...

#31Days, #31Photos Day 11- Corner of My Home

This is where the magic happens
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While You Were Away...

When our kids are away from us, we worry about them a great deal; I have adult children now so I am somewhat "accustomed" to my being away and not calling everyday. However, my 12 year old recently left for a couple days and she hardly called at all; I may have received a text from her asking to stay longer but that was it. Although I was in constant contact with the mother of her friend, I didn't hear from her too much. This really bothered me because I usually don't allow them to sleep over but we have spent a lot of time with this family and I was okay with her going. When she returned home, I spoke with her about at least checking in with me periodically while she is away. She didn't see anything wrong with it; she said she was having so much fun that she wasn't thinking about calling me. I reminded her how important it was for her to check in with me; I also reminded her that if she couldn't do that then she would not be staying over again. I think she got the picture!
If you are a parent of a tween like I am, or you have teens, how have you or how would you handle a situation like this?

#31Days, #31Photos Day 10- Morning

Brunch with HIM for his Birthday...
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#31Days, #31Photos Day 9- Sweet

My 41st Birthday... SWEET Red Velvet
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#31Days, #31Photos Day 8-On My Plate

I need this on my plate!
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#31Days, #31Photos Day 7-Close-Up

I have my very own Princess
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#31Days, #31Photos Day 6- A Collection

Funny thing is, I have more!
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Ouch! You Bit Me!!!

Biting is something that occurs in toddlers between the age of 1-2 years. Biters bite for a number of reasons; believe it or not, biting is a common early childhood stage for some. It is common for biting occur; the child may want attention and cannot express it yet, they may want to get your attention but do not have the vocabulary to express how they are feeling so they do something that will get your attention. Although it may be innocent in nature, no parent wants to be known as the owner of the kid who bites everyone!
What can you do to minimize the frequency of biting as well as discourage the behavior?

  • Be very firm when saying "NO". "No biting!" "That hurts!"
  • Be sure to give attention to the victim of the biter. Comforting the victim will reinforce to the biter that he/she has caused pain to another.
  • Try to redirect the child who is biting to a different activity; encourage activities that are low-impact.
  • You may also need to comfort the biter. Once they see another child crying and you comforting the other child, they may begin to cry themselves. It's okay to comfort the biter because they may not know that they have caused pain.
  • Suggest that the child use words instead of biting.
Usually, timeouts are not necessary at this age. However, if you have a 2-3 year old who is biting and these techniques do not work, you may have to redirect through timeout. Remember: timeout should only be one minute per year of age of the child. For example, a three year old should not sit longer than three minutes.

Happy Parenting!

I know your time is precious and valuable and I thank you for string it with me. Until we chat again...

#31Days, #31Photos Day 5-Hard Work

Hard work really does pay off!
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#31Days, #31Photos Day 4-Favorite Color

Purple is... a symbol of royalty
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#31Days, #31Photos Day 2-Something Treasured

Heritage, Faith, Strength, Wisdom, Love, Dedication, God-fearing
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This is my Grandmother (in-law) Justine. I truly treasure and adore this lady right here. She has loved me and my family unconditionally since the first day she ever met us. She is a symbol of all words used above to describe her; a Matriarch in our family. My third child is named after her: Jaedyn Justine (JJ).

Photo Shoot...CHECK!

A while back I wrote a post about having a bucket list and wanting to do things I have put off for one reason or another. Well, a couple months back I checked an item off my bucket list: Having a personal photo shoot for myself. My fellow BLMGirl Tiffany of PoseNPlay Photography was the mastermind behind the camera. I want to share a few  lot of the shots here with you. I was very excited to do this shoot. I wanted to feel sexy and do something I've never done before. Mission accomplished!
Hubby said: "Who walks down an alley in their bra?" I said, "That was the goal of the shoot, to do something I'd never do!" I love my shots and hubby said, "You look gorgeous in every shot!"
I embrace every curve that makes up my wonderful body. I REALLY enjoyed this shoot; I felt like a model for a couple hours. Tiffany did my makeup and she captured my true beauty both inside and out through her lens.






















#31Days, #31Photos Day 1-Self Portrait


"Some choices we live not only once, but a thousand times over, remembering them for the rest of our lives"
When I see this photo of myself taken recently by Tiffany Crawford of PoseNPlay Photography I see a beautiful Daughter, Mother, Wife, Sister, Friend, Mentor, and GOALgetter. I also see something that reminds me of my past and to keep moving forward in a positive light. To know me, is to know my story. My story is one of courage, determination, persistence, and a will to raise the most successful children who, in the eyes of some didn't have a fighting chance. Take the time time out to get to know me... I just may inspire you and change the way you think. Everyone has a story...

I'm Inspired

As many of you know, I belong to a wonderful group known as  BLMand one of the ladies in the group is Ms. Beatrice Clay and she is so inspirational. Last month she inspired many of us through her 31 days to a beautiful life. This month, in August she is inspiring us again and encouraging us to participate in 31 days, 31 photos I plan to participate in this challenge and I hope that you all will as well. I do not have an Instagram so I will use my blog to participate and share. I'm so excited!!! I'm working on my first post right now. Wish me luck!

Swimming Lessons...

We've been watching the Olympics together at the Evans household and JJ loves swimming, basketball, and Volleyball. Haley loves Gymnastics and Volleyball. Hubby and I love watching it all! Last summer, I took my girls for swimming lessons; I cannot swim to this day and my teens practically learned on their own with the help of friends. I've always been a working mom working right through the summer so lessons were few and far in between.
Today, while watching Water Polo in the Olympics, JJ the 12 year old became more curious about other swimming activities so she took the internet after we researched information for her summer reading lists. She found this video on YOUTUBE and it is amazing! You must watch it.

Are you Over Sleepovers?

A while back I mentioned sleepovers in a post where I briefly mentioned my opinion on sleepovers. Recently, I found myself having this discussion with another mom. This seems to be a big deal lately. Not because they're fun, but because a lot of moms seem to be fearful of the dangers of sleepovers. Not younger children but children who are teens or "tweens" as they are known between the ages of 11-12. This particular mom I was speaking with shared her fears about strangers being in the house, lack of supervision, peer pressure, bad association, drinking, sex, drugs, etc. As we sat and talked, it made me feel more confident about my decision to limit sleepovers with my own children. As I mentioned in a previous post, sleepovers are usually with VERY close friends or family.
What about you as mothers? How do you feel about sleepovers?

Christmas in July...

Today, I volunteered (second year) at an All White Party benefitting Khocolate Keepsakes Children's Literacy Museum. This is such a wonderful event and it benefits children; I am glad that they asked me back to volunteer again. It was my first All White Party of the year. "Miss Carliss" as I affectionately call her is responsible for this event. Carliss is a member of Delta Sigma Theta Inglewood Chapter and I admire her for her work. Although I'm volunteering the entire event, I get to see familiar faces sometimes and I love doing something positive for children. Looking forward to volunteering again next year!

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My latest style in my journey to natural hair is Kinky Twists