The Other Little People...

We often associate the term "Little People" as the politically correct description of dwarfed individuals. For me, it has a been term of endearment for my children and my students. Afterall, we are raising "Little People"; our children will grow up and become functioning adults in society and we want them prepared. Often, some adults believe children should be seen and not heard; depending on your own experiences as a child, this may be something you feel strongly about.
Consider for a moment, that you do not allow your child to have input in certain conversations which may involve them. What are you teaching your child about having an opinion? Thinking for themselves? It's true, you do not want a child that has a difficult time being respectful and the ability to voice opinion becomes disrespectful and you find yourself arguing with this little person. We do, however, want to create a balance of meaningful conversation when having dialogue with our children. The lessons you teach them now will follow them for years to come.
It is a great idea to hold family meetings sometimes when major things are occurring to include the children; this gives the child or children a sense of belonging and it also lets them know that they are a valuable member of the member of the family with input to be considered. It allows them to share how they are feeling as well.
Over the years, I have parented my children to have open dialogue with myself and their dad as well as teachers. There are moments where your children may have input in regards to certain rules, especially as they pertain to them. Discussions with with your child or children regarding washing dishes, curfew, homework schedules, sports, chores, bedtime, television watching, and video game playing are all relevant discussions where our little people may want to have a say. The important thing to remember during these conversations is that you are in fact, the parent and you are willing to hear them out, but make it clear that the final decision is yours. Remember that our little people are watching us intently; they are determining what type of adult they will be based on their experiences with us as parents; in essence, this is what occurs during the rearing of our children. We want our children to grow and learn and have the tools for independence, especially the tool of having discernment and knowing whom they can trust. You build this trust by letting them know that they will be heard while maintaining consistent discipline. They need to see that sometimes you are willing to make decisions based upon their input as well.
You want to create confident children because confident children become confident adults!
Happy Parenting!
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