Is Your Daughter Bossy?

Lately, I've seen many articles floating around the net about girls bring bossy, and whether or not calling them bossy is a good thing.
Of course, with my professional background, I'm usually pretty good at recognizing a young leader when I see one; male or female. However, with three daughters, I recognize leadership skills but want to make sure that they aren't bring too bossy. There's such a thin line between being a leader and being bossy. I try to teach my girls that being a leader does not always mean you're running everything; it also means you can follow as well.
What's your take on being bossy? As you ponder it, I'd like to share a couple articles I found on Twitter:

Give Me Five Laps!

Should we, as parents, discipline someone else's kid while on school grounds?
Shouting at kids on school grounds is the norm for some adults.

For me, this is an easy answer because of my views on discipline. Discipline is not just "laying" hands on a child, it is also guiding them and leading them in the right direction; giving them something to think about. I have a strong history with children in general, seeing as how I've raised and am still raising my own four. I have worked with kids of all ages, and I have helped raise nieces, nephews, friends, and god-children. I see it, in simple terms, as my duty to duty to be a part of the "village" it takes to raise children. But should I discipline someone else's kid while on school grounds?

It's not what you do, but how you do it.

I say YES! Why? It's simple: if I see kids being disrespectful to one another or an adult, I pay careful attention to the situation and if there is "room" for me to step in and "politely" reason with this kid about their behavior, I do. I don't yell and scream at them, but I put the ball back in their court and ask, "Should you be doing that?" "Should you speak that way?" Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. Bottom line is this, I do not speak to someone else's child in a disrespectful manner. But if I turn my back when I could possibly assist, what am I doing for that child? Nothing. If I stop and take few minutes with this child, I can only help. Regardless if the child is receptive, I have given them )I hope) something to think about.

Some children are looking for someone to care enough about what they are doing to say something. Not yell and scream, but say something. There may be some who could care less of your opinion, but that doesn't mean they don't deserve positive guidance. I guess I'm somewhat partial because I am a child advocate and I believe that children deserve the benefit of the doubt. They're not perfect, just as we are not perfect, but we, as adults know better whereas children are still learning. I don't care if they stand as tall as us or may be taller, they are still someone's baby and they need guidance. It literally takes a village to raise children. But when members of a village turn their backs on those who need us the most, our future, where does that leave us? Each one, teach one.

You can find more of my views on this subject HERE and HERE

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Talk That Talk, Walk That Walk

When making decisions, it seems so much easier to talk about it than be about it; especially when it comes to allowing our children to do "mature" things. At least for me it is!
At the start of this school year, hubby and I made a decision to change the girls' school. The school they attend now is wonderful and they like it a lot! It's much closer to our home than their previous schools; it's within walking distance. Walking distance... there it was: that scary thought (for me) of allowing the last two at home, to walk home from school. It's not like our eldest two didn't walk home from school, so why is it such a big deal now?

Times have changed a lot. Even when the two eldest walked, it was not by choice, it was because the work schedules of hubby and I were not consistent with their school hours. We had an older lady who would help us with them, making sure they got in the house safely and she kept an ear out until we got home. I have to be honest and say I begged and begged for them to get into the afterschool program at their school at the time; eventually they did, and I was able to pick them up myself after work.

Lately, our two youngest have been walking home more frequently. Especially on those days I work in Rialto. It's hard when I'm leaving a site at 2:30 68 miles away (which feels longer because of traffic) and my kids get out of school at 2:20; it's impossible to be in two places at one time. There are a lot of mornings I feel guilty too. Sometimes I'm out the door before they even wake up because traffic is not my friend; thankfully I have hubby who gets them up and out the door before 8 for school.

We had a talk with our girls and explained to them that they would be walking home some days; this was scary for me and hubs. We mapped out a route for them to get home, then we would drive and watch them to see if they knew where they were going (without them seeing us). It took a few times, but eventually, they got the hang of it.

Even though I talk to my girls about walking home and being safe, it's still hard to know that they're walking. I'd much rather be the type of mother who was home for my children; be there whenever they need me. It was difficult with the two eldest and it's still difficult now, but what's a mom to do when she has to work? I have to walk the talk, and bust my tail on days my schedule isn't so crazy to get to their school and be outside waiting for them when the bell rings.

*If only I could put them in school closer to my job like I did Preon and Prettie eventually* IMPOSSIBLE.

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